Thursday, February 18, 2010
இ Baŋäŋaz இ
The highest temperature registered in the Year of the Tiger on CNY Day III was at 36°C. Even the tigers need to cool off in the scorching weather. We all have been talking about CNY happy this happy that and now the grand Day has passed into the 5th day, see how time flies. Hope all have had a great time with families since the eve of CNY with reunion dinner, catching up with old friends and made tons of money with lady luck game of cards etc.
When comes to CNY everything we say must be in a positive note. We are not supposed to say foul words and the word "death" is strictly & extremely a No-No and should not be uttered at all. Seems like our ancestors sort of knew something close to the Law of Attraction a few thousand years ago. We merely just know 'how' what to say and what not to say but not fully aware of the 'why' until The Law of Attraction became widely popular after the release of 'The Secret' in relation to "New Thought", Practical Metaphysics or "Positive Thinking". I am beginning to see the connection now. So we must supposedly train our mind to be always positive so as to grab a 好意頭 {hǎoyìtóu} good head start for the year and hopefully throughout the year without fail.
Have seen a few comments from bloggers and heard from friends how they "hate" CNY or I rather would say 'No peace of mind' like the inverted peace sign above. Kids as usual would love CNY, for them ignorance is bliss as long as they get their angpows, drink lots of soft and carbonated drinks they are happy as can be. As years go by time changed, people changed and our perspective in life changes constantly. Life is in a flux and its impermanent. We may not like to do the same things or have the same thinking like we did when younger and that could set a conflict with older folks. Maybe a part of the serenity prayer is able to give us some comfort..
Lord, grant me the serenity
To accept the 'people' I cannot change;
The courage to change the things that I can;
And the wisdom to know the difference..
Can understand quite a number dread going back home for reunion dinners or even celebrating CNY with families. Fears of facing the nagging of parents and possibly the worst from the 'deadly' "Ma's" & "Jiě's" who else but the 姨媽yímā and 姑姐gūjiě [aunts ~ parents' sisters]. "Aiya when you getting married?" "When you gonna bring back your girl/boy friend?" "Aiyo when you're going to have baby, your parents wanna hug grandson leh?" Sounds familiar? A straight forward answer consisting of two words worked pretty well its ~ "Next Year" with a smile. The situation is so bad that in China there is an advert for a rental of boy friend to take home for reunion dinner. Just cannot believe it's getting out of hand. Believe it or Not? How true? Click HERE!
The old folks meant good, very concerned but sometimes could be repulsive and we have to learn to accept them if we cannot change them. When love is shown too aggressively and not properly it becomes counter productive which might turned into hate. Its kinda sad when the old folks mis-handled situation poorly, first they are not well educated and second ego seems to be punching their faces to swallow that breath of losing to the Joneses. At the least they are 'teaching' us indirectly that's not the right way to show concern and we do not fall into the same foot step when we deal with our children in future. The most important lesson we learn is to mind our own business. Just like a song by Ah Niu which says "Happy happy also passed one day and not happy shall also passed one day". Just follow the flow..get on with life no matter what happens..
