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Feb 18, 2010

ക The Good, Bad & Ugly of Chinese New Year?

The highest temperature registered in the Year of the Tiger on CNY Day III was at 36°C. Even the tigers need to cool off in the scorching weather. We all have been talking about CNY happy this happy that and now the grand Day has passed into the 5th day, see how time flies. Hope all have had a great time with families since the eve of CNY with reunion dinner, catching up with old friends and made tons of money with lady luck game of cards etc.

When comes to CNY everything we say must be in a positive note. We are not supposed to say foul words and the word "death" is strictly & extremely a No-No and should not be uttered at all. Seems like our ancestors sort of knew something close to the Law of Attraction a few thousand years ago. We merely just know 'how' what to say and what not to say but not fully aware of the 'why' until The Law of Attraction became widely popular after the release of 'The Secret' in relation to "New Thought", Practical Metaphysics or "Positive Thinking". I am beginning to see the connection now. So we must supposedly  train our mind to be always positive so as to grab a  好意頭 {hǎoyìtóu} good head start  for the year and hopefully  throughout the year without fail. 



Have seen a few comments from bloggers and heard from friends how they "hate" CNY or I rather would say 'No peace of mind' like the inverted peace sign above. Kids as usual would love CNY, for them ignorance is bliss as long as they get their angpows, drink lots of soft  and carbonated drinks they are happy as can be. As years go by time changed, people changed and our perspective in life changes constantly. Life is in a flux and its impermanent. We may not like to do the same things or have the same thinking like we did when younger and that could set a conflict with older folks. Maybe a part of the serenity prayer is able to give us some comfort..

Lord,  grant me the serenity
To accept the 'people' I cannot change;
The courage to change the things that I can;
And the wisdom to know the difference..

Can understand quite a number dread going back home for reunion dinners or even celebrating CNY with families. Fears of facing the nagging of parents and possibly the worst from the 'deadly' "Ma's" & "Jiě's" who else but the 姨媽yímā and 姑姐gūjiě [aunts ~ parents' sisters]. "Aiya when you getting married?" "When you gonna bring back your girl/boy friend?" "Aiyo when you're going to have baby, your parents wanna hug grandson leh?" Sounds familiar? A straight forward answer consisting of two words worked pretty well its ~ "Next Year" with a smile. The situation is so bad that in China there is an advert for a rental of boy friend to take home for reunion dinner. Just cannot believe it's getting out of hand. Believe it or Not? How true? Click HERE


The old folks meant good, very concerned but sometimes could be repulsive and we have to learn to accept them if we cannot change them. When love is shown too aggressively and not properly it becomes counter productive which might turned into hate. Its kinda sad when the old folks mis-handled situation poorly, first they are not well educated and second ego seems to be punching their faces to swallow that breath of losing to the Joneses. At the least they are 'teaching' us indirectly that's not the right way to show concern and we do not fall into the same foot step when we deal with our children in future. The most important lesson we learn is to mind our own business. Just like a song by Ah Niu which says "Happy happy also passed one day and not happy shall also passed one day". Just follow the flow..get on with life no matter what happens..

32 Bunchesஇ:

manglish said...

yeah life is like tat, there is another saying directly translated " every year also difficult to pass, but still every year passes by" hahahaha

the happy go lucky one said...

i like ur tigers! so funny hahaaa... at last its over (at least for me), now i can rest and relax again :P

cleffairy said...

LOL... if you've been reading my entries, you would know how much I LOATHE CNY. I hate the nagging parents the most, and kaypo 38 around who duzzin know how to mind their own business.

And Serenity prayer... ahahah... I shared this wif my readers too, and recited this prayer everyday before going back to hubby's hometown. :( I know I wouldn't be able to change anything... and I hoped God will saved my soul by giving me serenity for the things that I cannot change. =(

wenn said...

for me, CNY means cooking, more cooking!

Keats The Sunshine Girl said...

Gong Xi Fa Cai! Oh the temperature is rising! Luckily, during CNY, we are all even -tempered(I hope!). Enjoy the festivity while it lasts!

CH Voon said...

hehehe i will try not to say bad things during cny expecially first day of cny.

i feel that anything badly will affect the whole year's luck.

CH Voon said...

i have a bad and sad cny 2 years ago... but it is pass ... (and the whole years bad luck for me :( )

CH Voon said...

hahaha very good idea to rent a man or woman....

can earn some money as well.

Bananaz... i am available (but not overnight ar0

Merryn said...

ahhh.. tigers in a tub. NICE! my hubs a tiger.. must get him to do the tiger show for me :P

Bananazക said...

manglish ക that's a good one ~ "every year also difficult to pass, but still every year passes by". tQ

the happy go lucky one ക you must have been very busy and 'tired' over the CNY and now need to rest & relax eh. tQ

cleffairy ക am very glad you 'survived' your CNY balik kampung, no damage haha. Take care. tQ

wenn ക been seeing you're having a great feast at home, nice home cooked food.tQ

Keats The Sunshine Girl ക so far so good 'temper' not tampered, well under control haha. tQ

CH Voon ക good try not to say bad things but same time must say good things also. Glad your 2 bad years were gone. Sure or not you wanna be the part time boyfriend? Is that China girl a con woman or not, after cheat your Honda and take away your Vanessa so how? then your wifey peel my skin leh haha.

merryn ക oh hubs got hari harimau? haha tQ

foongpc said...

Now we know the Chinese are the most intelligent and advanced people on earth - with their knowledge of feng shui, Law of Attraction, fortune telling, sailing round the world discovering America, mathematics, invention of fireworks etc. etc! LOL!

foongpc said...

Yes, how time flies! So fast I have to go back to work! Gone are my holidays! Boo hoo!

foongpc said...

I wish can turn back time and go back to Chinese New Year eve now : )

foongpc said...

Wow! This is quite an inspiring post. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! : )

Bananazക said...

foongpc ക huh rewind clock to CNY eve again. So gone are your happy hours now back to work no wonder you need a time tunnel. Think you truly max the joy of CNY from mall hopping and food blogging. Always another new year and let bunny hop in 2011. You are most welcome my pleasure in sharing. tQ.

molly said...

I enjoy New Year, I enjoy the do and dont during this time of the year. Am I an old fashion living in this modern world, but I think there are still lots more people like me nowaday. :):)

molly said...

Happy GongXiFaChai to you, bananaz!

[SK] said...

hmmm, next time just tell your 姨媽姑 that you have just broken up with your gf, and then show them your teary eyes.. and most importantly, frown over this break-up in front of them, then they will not asked anymore.. hahaha!! :D

Bananazക said...

molly ക Glad you love and enjoy CNY and followed custom and tradition to the T. Still OK good combination sweet and sour is still quite popular haha. You a great tiger year too. tQ

[SK] ക great idea in using crocodile tears might pull a fast one eh or worst case scenario rent a partner next year hehe. tQ

HappySurfer said...

Gong Xi Fa Cai, Bananaz! Hope the Tiger year started well for you.

Most enjoyable and thought-provoking post this one. I like the second para most. Thanks for the reminder.

Festivals like CNY give us a chance to go back to our traditional roots lest we become too 'banana'. Oops!

Have a wonderful day ahead and the best of new years.

Bananazക said...

HappySurfer ക Happy CNY to you too. Glad this entry serve as a reminder to you. Yeah somehow we still need to stick to the old roots else we lost the true essence of CNY. Have a great day. tQ

Merryn said...

lol! hari hari mau :D oh YES! rotfl.. :P

Gratitude said...

All the rants and ramblings that we get just makes life more interesting, right? lolz

Stay sweet! ^_^
+Ant+

Bananazക said...

Merryn ക Even better if hubs is toothless tiger haha. tQ

Gratitude ക Spot on! Yeah very well said. As a totality life is like that we just cannot only have the roses but must also put up with the thorns. tQ

Autumn Belle said...

CNY is the best time to pay respects to our parents. I guess one will only miss it when you don't have it. Some city friends used to envy me when 'I have a kampung to balik to'. During a family reunion there is laughter and relatives keep in touch. It is always better for all relatives from far and near to meet and mingle during a happy occassion than a sad one. Funny how often 'disappeared' close ones only come back during a funeral. I really cherish all the yearly hoo-hah over the festive season. After all, this is our culture, our roots. The old lonely parents and grandparents, including our children are usually the most happy during CNY.
BTW, I do hope our Malayan tigers live to enjoy their time instead of being hunted and poached. So nice to see your happy tiger pictures.

Bananazക said...

Autumn Belle ക Not only during CNY normal days too should drop by if time permits. Parents & grandparents really looked forward to see their children & grandchildren home for reunion dinner. Yeah CHERISH is the most appropriate word. You liked the three cheeky tigers taking a dip! haha.

CheaHS@n said...

On a 5 year family planning after marriage. 1st year mom reminded, 2nd yr mom nagged & relatives add salt & vinegar, 3rd yr mom got restless, 4th yr mom more noises & friends started to ask "you can or not" by the 5th yr we panicked. Phew 6th year we got a baby girl and a star is born as her pix was in the papers for being the first CNY baby in Penang..

Cheryl said...

Very interesting post, I have enjoyed it very much. I love to learn of other cultures.

jingle said...

insightful post.

kenwooi said...

my CNY this year was pretty boring =P

kenwooi.com

Rose Belle said...

Traditions are hard to follow through. Many people cover their bookshelves and don't look at books on CNY because shu means loss in Chinese. I don't cover my bookshelf and I know visitors, well the more traditional ones, feel uncomfortable when they see the bookshelf. I do, however, try my best and tell my kids to think positive and no acting up on CNY.

Bananazക said...

CheaHS@n ക haha..congratz for a CNY babygirl. tQ

Cheryl ക thanks do drop by often.

jingle ക tQ

kenwooi ക why boring you got 'York' to entertain you mah..haha tQ

Rose Belle ക oh really! wow first time to hear of such old traditionalists or would say ignorant people. We used to hide our brooms as grandpa cannot stand seeing leaves on the floor. tQ

 
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