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Mar 10, 2011

இ Woman Is Always Right ¿

A Salute to All Women on International Women's Day on March 08 and to add here ~ "Woman Is Always Right". Kinda tough to explain here regarding the 'left' from the 'right' due to the mirroring effect and hope the right which Bananaz is mentioning is not the left wrong that you are thinking. To simply make it very clear the correct 'right' position would be the lady must stand on the right hand side of her spouse regardless facing out or in except in temples as explained later.

We often hear this Chinese saying 男左女右 nán zuǒ nǚ yòu [boy left girl right] and just how right is this phrase all about? It is unknown on the true origin as it could be related to Chinese Medicine, accordingly the left part of our body is Qi, right part is blood. Qi is Yáng阳 because it’s active while blood is Yīn阴 because it’s passive. Or it could have some connection to I Ching where philosophers of ancient China based on the two opposites. 乾 [qián] one of the Eight Trigrams 八卦symbolizing Heaven as in Yáng阳 (male) and 坤 [kūn] one of the Eight Trigrams 八卦symbolizing Earth as in Yīn阴(female). Yáng阳 is associated to masculine, active, creative, positive and LEFT, bright and hard. Yīn阴 is the opposite of Yáng阳 which is feminine, passive, receptive, negative and RIGHT, soft and dark. Would appreciate any comment towards the origin to seek enlightenment on the truth. Whatever it is the tradition and culture of 男左女右 [boy left girl right] stays on until today and a gentle reminder: Rule#1~ Woman is always Яight. Rule#2~ What if woman is wrong? Refer to Rule#1. Oops the men gonna peel and deep fry Bananaz for this.


Well not too sure if it’s the Chinese culture and tradition that men are always said to have a higher social status thus 大男子主義 dà nán zǐ zhǔ yì [male chauvinism]. We always hear 男女 nán nǚ [boy girl] but never 女男 nǚ nán [girl boy]. Another common Chinese saying its left and right, instead of right and left. Not just in Chinese but English would said the same as well as for Malay too with its kiri [left] kanan [right] and probably many other languages. But why left first then right? Any answer(s)?

Some Daoist and Hindu temples would apply this rule where the ladies would sit on the left hand side facing the altar and the men on the right hand side, that means from the altar facing out its boy left girl right. [RЯight is wrong, left is ЯRight..which is which? Not confused yet? Continue then haha..]


More wedding photos of the 'woman is always right' from cake cutting to wine pouring and toasting, courtesy of suituapui. Was it coincidental or pre-planned by the event organiser? Chinese men would wear the wedding ring on the left hand and the women on the right..wonder other races would do the same? Interestingly does this 'rule' 男左女右 [boy left girl right] sort of applies to buttons in jackets and shirt for men and women?. Why do men's shirts always button-up left-over-right, while women's shirts right-over left? WHO decided this, and WHY? {Know some readers might be checking their buttons right now..}


If you have watched any Chinese television variety shows, ever noticed if there are two hosts of different sex the male host would normally stand on the left with his lady partner on his right? Guess 男左女右 nán zuǒ nǚ yòu [boy left girl right] is deeply rooted in our Chinese culture right from cradle to grave. Go dig out your group photos taken in a photo studio with your parents or any friends wedding photos to check out the standing position. Even on the Chinese tomb stones, there is no exception..男左女右nán zuǒ nǚ yòu [boy left girl right]



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lina said...

Never knew all that info.

You are really observant.

lina said...

But I'd agree on that title. You are a smart Banana. :D

lina said...

BTW, I got this one post over at one of my blogs, and people kept thinking about you when they see a photo I put up there. XD

Isaac Tan said...

Nice writeup Bananaz! :)

Merryn said...

it's always mind boggling reading ur entry... tak confuse pun confuse... tak paham pun paham dy... the conclusion..

WE WOMEN ARE ALWAYS RIGHT EVEN WHEN WE ARE WRONG :P

[SK] said...

very interesting about this 男左女右nán zuǒ nǚ yòu thing.. there comes a few findings that i don't even realised, for example the button thingy.. was chatting with colleagues over lunch and realised this only quite recently..

Tekkaus said...

It makes me wonder too why they are always RIGHT! Now I know. LOL :D

[SK] said...

but i guess we are quite acustomed to this concept that we instinctively will be doing the same thing not realising that.. hmmm, i suddenly wonder: how about belt?? is it the same as the buttons?? men do it from left to right, ladies do it from right to left??

HappySurfer said...

Looks like my comment, (#1 somemore), was not captured. I wrote, Great post. Good reference for novice tailors.

SK, I think the belt thingy is not relevant lah. It's more to whether one is left- or right-handed, this one.

eugene said...

This type of so called traditional belief or teachings do not hold water already lah, a lot of us really evolve with time one.... many traditions be it myth of real we have since forsaken along with time.

you agree?

MODERN ROBINSON CRUSOE said...

Nope i'm NOT going to deep fry you...but.....WHAT THE HELL with your title of posting? (pretend angry only)...I only know true god's always right only..NEVER NEVER human :p

MODERN ROBINSON CRUSOE said...

But a good one on this Nan zhuo ni you - sth to ponder why it goes like that in chinese - women suppose to be men's right-hand men?? LOL...can potentially ignite debate on sex-gender

Caroline Ng May Ling said...

mwahaha love this post la! :p Women always right! yay! :D

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CH Voon said...

I am not sure why man left and woman right. i agree with some info you wrote here.

CH Voon said...

What i am more interested is.. the first photos - the leng chai is you? at the left side wakakaa?

CH Voon said...

If the answer is yes, i guess this is old photos right?

CH Voon said...

If yes again, you are so lucky that you are surround with a lot leng lui. happy for you :)

CH Voon said...

If no, never mind it is ok. :) Take it easy ok.

CH Voon said...

OMG - the second photos is bit ....

I am notice this ... where you obtain this photos? somewhere from internet???

suituapui said...

In an arguement, the man will always have the last word: "Yes, dear!"

suituapui said...

Hey! Never noticed... But it depends on how you look at it, doesn't it? - If from our point of view, the man is right...and the woman is left (on the shelf). LOL!!!

Mei Teng said...

Never knew there is such a thing as to where the woman should stand.

I only know to stand up for truth.

Yvonne said...

LOL! I absolutely agree with Rule#1 and Rule#2!! Women rule~~

Pete said...

Aiyo, dun wan to argue lah......correct correct correct, woman always right....ha ha ha!

Alice Law said...

yeah... couldn't agree with you more! Keep that in mind, women always RIGHT, if you don't want to get into troubles!

have a great weekend!
p/s: Been really busy leh, so long didn't update your post laio!

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Casendra said...

Hmnm I didnt noticed about the host's standing position .. let me pay attention next time :P

Luciana said...

right left, right wrong it doesn`t matter now...
even myself not agree with this :)

Bananazஇ said...

Lina இ Me too as Bananaz we were not taught about Chinese history or culture only now beginning to dig into it. tQ not smart actually but kaypo should be quite right haha. Oh really would love to pop by to see the 'banana' post of yours.

Isaac Tan இ For a newly wed can recall which ring goes to which hand and the wedding photo of wifey standing on your right? tQ.

Merryn இ Haha of course you would go for the "RIGHT" hehe.

Bananazஇ said...

[SK] இ For the buttons things I found it out when my soulmate gave me her shirt to wear saying she not likey and that when I found the difference in the buttons. As for the belt no lah depends on individual's convenient but also whether the person is left or right handed. Will post on this next.

Tekkaus இ Do you give in to your wifey even though she is wrong haha.

HappySurfer இ Yeah sometimes comments do go MIA..good reference for novice tailors but so far no exact reason for this. Read some said would make the boobs of female look nicer..beleaf it or not? haha..

Bananazஇ said...

Eugene இ Its not that crucial where we stand but just a knowledge on the customs and tradition but its still in practice.

MRC இ Not trying to create a WAR haha..true woman is the man's right hand man so to speak with the phrase behind every successful man...

Caroline இ Sure you support one..haha

Bananazஇ said...

CH Voon இ Photo very recent one unfortunately that lengchai not me, but one of the lenglui is my anak haha..

suituapui இ Right refer to rule#1 haha.

Mei Teng இ Most Bananaz would not know this. Those days I even said "who cares where I stand" but good to know our customs and tradition for knowledge purposes.

MKL said...

Well, I asked my girlfriend about this and people in Taiwan don't have this tradition. She had no idea about the things you said, haha :P But well, most people here say they're not Chinese, but Taiwanese, so I guess that's the reason :P

Bananazஇ said...

Yvonne இ Oh oh there goes making the guys even more mad now haha.

Pete இ Korek korek korek eh..hehe

Alice Law இ Any supporter of RIGHT haha. Sorry eyes giving trouble doctor says to keep some distance away from the rectangular box and some multi vitamins with lutein until my next check up after a month. Nothing wrong with eyes just plain tired and lots of floats. Feeling and seeing better now. tQ

Bananazஇ said...

Casendra இ Keep an eye on the China shows eg the Guinness Records, China..

Luciana இ Just merely Chinese customs haha.

MKL இ Sure your girlfriend is a Chinese and she from Taiwan or the last saw I read your blog its like from Japan? hehehe.

MKL said...

She would not fully agree with your statement, as she believes deep down in her heart that she's Taiwanese not Chinese :)

Bananazஇ said...

MKL இ Okie dokie gotcha sorry for the confusion 1001 apologies. Xiexie

CH Voon said...

hahaha I thought is you. Never mind!

It is very difficult for me to plot out who is your daughter. wakaka..

let me guess... the leng lui who sit with the leng chai?

CH Voon said...

Yupe, i agree with you.... at the end, i finish the food. What to do... i want to survive :(

Wenny Yap said...

You are such an observant person. You always managed to tie the stuffs together and make one great brain teaser. Thank you. I enjoyed reading this one.

Mariuca said...

Happy International Women's Day to all the beautiful women around the world! :)

Life Ramblings said...

if only women rules....I could hardly imagine a world where women are in charge of absolutely everything and men just have to do as they're told.

Life Ramblings said...

don't know much of the boy left girl right concept but interesting write-up.

cleffairy said...

I don't quite believe that though I am a woman. Not all women are right. Men and women are created to accompany and complement each other. And as for right and wrong it is a matter of opinionand perception isn't it? How do we determined who is right and who is wrong. This world is full of love and war. And all is fair in love and war, isn't it?

Willie a.k.a Reptoz said...

Never thought about this. But I noticed in marriage, the men will always be on the left and the woman on the right. Errr...not sure la...hahahah!

Bananazஇ said...

CH Voon இ Nope haha not telling..make you 'sum si si' haha. Better eat your food stop playing lolz.

Wenny Yap இ tQ so much for your supportive words, glad you enjoyed it.

Mariuca இ Right On..

Bananazஇ said...

Life Ramblings இ tQ its a double meaning for the 'Right' haha.

cleffairy இ All people are created equal the 'right' is a double meaning. Make love not war..haha.

Willi a.k.a. Reptoz இ Oh you are sharp too and noticed the standing position of brides guess the tradition still strong. tQ

Daisy said...

Very interesting and confusing! HA! I enjoyed reading this though. Thank you for visiting my blog. Nice to meet you. :-)

Regina said...

Hi there.. I never thought about it, though there seemed to always be seating arrangements and that growing up? well I just looked at an album and noticed a wedding ceremony where the man was on the right but when they were each cutting the cake, he was on the left? Hmm..she is Micronesian and he is Caucasian? Mine was informal..
Anyway, I found your post interesting,
Regards, Regina~

mNhL said...

Interesting post. Was digesting them. And yes...I did checked my buttons. haha

Jingle said...

smart title,

Happy Belated Women's Day.
Cheers.

Thanks for all the comments,
you rock.
got the math right, 100 is the answer.

Cloudia said...

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wenn said...

interesting concept.

foongpc said...

Woman is always right? No way unless she is my customer! Hahaha!!!

foongpc said...

Dunno all this right and left thing. After reading, I don't know what is right and left anymore! LOL!

foongpc said...

I only know one thing, I am always right!! : D

Bananazஇ said...

Daisy இ Confusing? haha will take awhile to understand the Chinese customs. tQ for dropping by.

Regina இ So not only Chinese but others could be 'applying' this rule. tQ for dropping by.

mNhL இ Haha checking your buttons oops wearing hubs shirt wrong side. lolz

Bananazஇ said...

Jingle இ Yippie me got the answer right tQ

Cloudia இ Aloha tQ

Wenn இ Right concept? haha.

foongpc இ You are right..haha

Small Kucing said...

Rule#1~ Woman is always Яight. Rule#2~ What if woman is wrong? Refer to Rule#1. - a good one :D

Bananazஇ said...

Small Kucing இ Actually copied this from my ex-bozz's room and change 'bozz' to 'woman'. haha.

Ever Green Tree said...

Yeh... A woman is Always RIGHT. Belated Happy Woman's Day!

Autumn Belle said...

This right/left for male/female also applies to feng shui placements of people and objects. Eg. if you go to a Chinese temple, observe the fu dogs (chinese lions) - the female lion is on the right and male lion is on the left, inside looking out. In Chinese culture, there is always a hidden/special meaning in how a person does something.

MKL said...

@Autumn Belle: I agree with you, but truth is many Chinese forget those rules these days, as it's obvious such situations. The old scholars were very smart and carefully developed rules of behavior and understanding of each other. Some things were just forgotten through time.

Bananazஇ said...

Ever Green Tree இ right is the standing position haha.

Autumn Belle இ Oh yes the fu dogs! Was on a Taiwan tour once and the tour guide asked this question which is male/female? Now I know haha..tQ

MKL இ The left and right position by the Chinese will be carry out for few generations to come.

JamieDedes said...

The rational reason for such things are lost in the midst of times, but I like woman right! Keep that.

U.S.: men and women wear wedding rings on the left hand and on the fourth digit. That finger was considered magical in some cultures.

I've often wondered if we wear wedding rings on the left hand for practical reasons. Rings can get caught on things and the vast majority of the population is righ-handed - so the work hand!!/?? Left hand may avoid accidents. Just speculation.

Bananazஇ said...

JamieDedes இ So in US men and women wear wedding rings on the left hand different from Chinese way that's interesting. tQ.

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